As this year starts to come to a close and a new one is approaching, I realize how much I have changed in a single year. I think most of these changes are for the better.
This year, for the first time in at least ten years, I am not going to Nana’s Christmas party. I think this is just the break I need and a great time for reflection. Last year, on this exact day, I woke up happy, ready to see my (then) boyfriend of almost a year and a half. I hadn’t seen him in a while because of Christmas break and us spending the holidays in different towns an hour and a half away from each other. That day, I would see him and we would go to Nana’s party together for the second year in a row. Be the “it” couple I knew we were (or thought we were). I was happy.
That day, mom and I finished baking strawberry bread, as we do every year, and I was going to deliver it to Anna, Hailey, and Julia (Kenna’s mom and sisters). I went to their house before the party and it was supposed to be a short visit, but since I hadn’t seen them since Kenna’s funeral in October, we had a lot to catch up on and it took longer than expected. I ended up being about an hour late for the party.
By the time I got to Nana’s, Warren was really mad. He wouldn’t talk to me or look me in the eye (foreshadowing). When we were finally civil enough, we made our rounds and said hi to everyone. They all commented on how happy we looked and how we made a great couple. We, of course, exchanged glances and thanked them.
After the party was over and everything was cleaned up, we went back to my parent’s house. It was late, but we decided to watch a little television before we went to bed in our separate rooms. We turned off the lights to watch TV, and he went to the bathroom, leaving his phone face up on the couch beside me. It lit up and since the room was dark and his phone was on full brightness, it caught my eye. It was a picture of a naked girl. Her number was not saved, so I assumed it was a wrong number (even though this had happened before). I opened the phone to reply that I was sorry that she had the wrong number and saw weeks worth of messages explicitly noting what they would do when they saw each other the next day since he would be home from my parent’s house and I wouldn’t be there. I instantly knew what was happening and fell apart. He denied everything for three days and then told me everything that had happened was my fault. I was crushed.
That was a year ago today.
Since then, I have dated a guy for a short time who expressed that I wasn’t good enough for him and another (for a month) who was abusive. I have been manipulated, hurt physically and emotionally, stolen from, lied to, threatened, etc. But those are just the bad things that have happened.
In the past year, most of all, I have LEARNED. I have learned that Newton’s third law of motion is right, not only in science, but also in life.
“For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Each bad thing that happens will eventually lead to a good thing of equal or greater importance and value. With heartache and pain, comes happiness and love. With weakness comes strength. With loss comes gain.
So, where am I now?
A year after my “final straw” breaking (after losing my uncle and Kenna), I am finally happy.
The 27th makes two months that Jeff and I have been together. I know it’s fast, but I really do love him.
My grades are high (All A’s and one B this semester). I’ve got a year and a half left of school. Next semester I will be at Orange Grove (a special needs school) and Soddy Daisy in their special education program. Next year, I will be student teaching in two special ed classrooms.
I have great friends and family who love and support me and I am happier than ever. Especially since I get to see Jeff tonight after a week of him being away.
It all just comes to show that all is not lost and that things DO get better. It just takes time and sometimes hard situations push you to make changes and question who you are, where you came from, and your worth. This past year, I has helped me define Emily and brought me closer to the person I want to be. I am thankful for each moment, each tear, each breath, each smile, and everything this year has brought to me and I cant wait to find out more about myself and where I’m going in the next one.